A friend of mine (we are both over fifty) told me that women talk sh*t about each other because that’s what women do. Then we’re supposed to make up and choose someone else to talk sh*t about. Apparently it’s a gene particular to women and it’s something a woman can’t escape. “It’s what we do. We gossip,” she said.
The next morning after she told me this gem, I woke to find the most popular New York Times article on its website was “Why Women Aren’t C.E.O.s, According to Women Who Almost Were” The article quotes Mrs. Clinton commenting on her defeat, “Certainly, misogyny played a role” in her loss to Donald Trump. I would venture it wasn’t just men hating Mrs. Clinton but many women didn’t support her and chose Donald Trump. I was aghast that she lost. And more shocked that women supported Trump. I was so proud of being a woman in the USA and to witness the first female president.
My daughter was ecstatic with the possibilities and campaigned for Hillary as did my friend’s daughters. I felt a resounding attitude that a woman was qualified and the best candidate for president and would be elected. After all hadn’t Trump said a slew of misogynist statements such as “Grab them by the pussy” and all women hate prenups, because they are gold diggers and pumping breast milk is “disgusting.” Or that a woman must be hot in order to be a journalist and women on “The Apprentice” need to rely on sex appeal.
Yet some women chose him over Hillary. Was this the Stockholm Syndrome? Some of my female friends confided to me that they liked Hillary better but their husbands supported Trump. I was astonished that they were still married to their sexist husbands much less quietly kept peace because their husband were “good providers.”
I don’t think women are inherently in competition with other women. I support other women and would like to think they support me. Talking sh*t about other women is horrid, not a casualty of my sex. As Michelle Obama said, “When they go low, we go high.” After all, I am woman.
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